It is rare to see service pups in the community. Actually, if we think about it, the majority tend to identify themselves with betas, the occasional alpha, and a few omegas, while the service is really few, I barely know a little more than half a dozen that we identify ourselves internationally. It really is something so unknown that the normal thing is that many pups ask me every time I introduce myself and identify as such.
Precisely, a few days ago the same situation occurred again, and that same night, talking with Jotun, the issue of Service Pups came back and how it is lived on a day-to-day basis. So I'm going to try to translate it here.
In the first place, for me, being a service pup consists, above all, of devoting oneself to others, sacrificing your own interests in pursuit of the group, with the only satisfaction of a job well done and not expecting anything in return. I have the need to feel useful to the community and help it grow
Actually, being a service pup is not a mere role, it is not only the typical "not fit as alpha, beta or omega", that is to be Switch, really that is a mere tool to move freely through the different levels of the group. Just like guide, police or rescue dogs do, being a service pup is a real job, sometimes full-time, that is helping others enjoy themselves.
Personally, I think that not everyone can serve as a service pup, firstly because the service lacks many of the leisure moments that other pups enjoy. With this I do not mean that assuming this responsibility supposes something ungrateful for oneself, since a great part of those moments of fun, in many cases, end up being replaced by personal fulfillment after seeing how everything works and moves forward.
Another reason is that, from my point of view, there are certain skills and abilities that a service must have just because it is. The first of these capabilities is the initiative: do not expect others to ask for help or what they need, you must anticipate it and be able to take a step forward with an attitude of "if nobody does it, I will do it myself". Knowing how to improvise and adapt to unforeseen events will also be useful.
On the other hand, there is resilience (LINK TO WIKIPEDIA) you will eat a lot of shit, you will see how your work is not valued and you will see how your efforts will fail on more than one occasion. You should also be the tear cloth and the personal coaching of many pups, and for that it is necessary to have a lot of resistance and emotional integrity. It is also necessary to feel some empathy for others and have some training in emotional intelligence, know how to put yourself in the other's place and, when they speak to you, know what the other person feels, even if they do not know it.
Finally, and I think it is indisputable, to have a spirit of solidarity. A service pup is dedicated to helping others, either to each pup as an individual or to the pack as a group. Do not look for any kind of reward, because if you've come looking for cheers and cheers, I think it's not your thing. It goes from everyday actions such as helping to set up an event or offer drinks, to be the emotional pillar of other pups or even mediate conflicts.
There is a last characteristic within the service pup, no longer as something personal, but a reality of the day to day and is that, unlike traditional roles, the service is not a role with sexual application. The degree of domination and submission that is established between the alphas, betas and omegas, does not stop being an adaptation of sexual roles as those that exist within a bdsm relationship, establishing dominant and submissive roles. The service pup is a social role whose function exists only and exclusively for and for the community, be it a pack or broader terms. Expressions like "I am X because I like to dominate / be dominated by Y" are meaningless for a service, because you do not seek sexual pleasure as such.
But what is really the work of a service pup?
I suppose that there is no "to-do list" as such, but it is, on occasion, a way of life. From opening the door and giving way, helping with luggage or bags ... but they are not things that do not stop being, from my point of view, mere questions of education.
In my case, my work as a service goes, to a great extent, to work for and for the community. from organizing events and meetings, some in my house and others in the home of those who have volunteered (in which case I tried to help the host as soon as it was in my power), to design a website for the pups to find information or a tenuous image of a community for those who have barely put a foot in this world.
It is a job that, in many occasions, is frustrating, believe me, very frustrating, especially when things do not go as expected. For some service, what is rewarding is the approval of their master for acting in one way or another and, even, they train for it, for others, what it is to see others enjoy is something that has no price.
Of course, I'm not the best service pup, I do not even think it's a good example of service pup, I have many things to improve and even more to learn.